There is not a day that goes by that I do not
think of my former student Robert Cheffy. I somehow believed that
Mr. Cheffy would beat the odds and rebound from his lung cancer, as he had from
so many other adversities in his life, but that did not happen. Robert's
celebration of life service at Veteran's Village of San Diego was a year ago.
I didn't share my thoughts about Robert at that service but felt
compelled to do something to keep Robert's spirit alive in my heart. This
spring the first Robert Cheffy scholarship will be awarded at Palomar College,
a memorial to a remarkable person who impacted so many people in his recovery
journey.
I first met Robert in 2008. He was
a student in two of my classes and later he worked for the AODS (Alcohol and
Other Drug Studies) program as a student mentor. Every time I saw Robert he
made me smile (even if I was irritated with him) I couldn’t help but turn my
lips upward and grin. That was Robert’s trademark: making people feel
happy. Robert had a charismatic character and a special gift of seeing the
humor in any situation. When I visualize Robert, I see him wheeling his
chair around campus greeting students and staff along the way, hearing him use
his famous expression, “Don’t trip.” A couple things I learned from Robert
during the past 4 years that I knew him.
Robert was devoted to his recovery. He worked really
hard and he was brutally honest about his own journey. Even when he
was diagnosed with cancer and was prescribed pain medication, he was conflicted
about taking the meds. I witnessed Robert make a “searching and fearless moral
inventory”; he was not afraid to discover his liabilities and that willingness
resulted in a growing self-confidence that guided him and inspired so many
others.
AODS Mentors; Wayne, David, Jacob, Glenn and Robert (seated) |
Robert was one of the most resilient people I have ever met. He had an inner strength that helped him withstand many of the negative effects of adversity. Robert had spiritual beliefs, which helped him to persist in surviving many challenging life circumstances (including addiction and loss of his legs). Robert had a conviction that his life had meaning.
He retained that optimistic focus through the
last time I visited him in November 2011, when he was still talking about
finishing up his degree and working as an AOD counselor. It was incredible
for me to witness Robert transform from a struggling and insecure student to
become a successful intern and program graduate, and a role model who inspired
others as a mentor and friend.
It
will be my great honor to award the first Robert Cheffy Scholarship at the
Palomar College Honor's Night event in May.